While we are on the topic of friendships, let’s tackle another matter I can’t quite figure out. Friends of the opposite sex. Now, I think it’s alright to have guy friends via social media. The guys we went to school with or have met during our lifetime. Enough contact to know how they’re doing, stay friendly and maybe run into one another while out and about. However, I feel it’s important to keep a fair amount of distance. In my experience when a guy wants to take you to dinner or hang out one on one it’s more forced than casual. High school was easy, I had my two girlfriends by my side and didn’t really need to invest in a guy best friend. But as I got older those girl friends came unglued and moved away. I was left feeling lonely with no one to confide in. And for whatever reason, boys were the only people ever willing to listen… so I gave in only to be let down. I don’t know if they got the wrong idea or what but they all eventually disappeared.. Either they gave up hope of being more than friends or started dating someone and basically forgot about me. I really can’t wrap my mind around any other possible explanation for their abandonment. That’s not friendship.
Girls- What’s your take on having a guy BFF? Do they stick around after you get married? or disappear when another woman enters their life? Is it possible to keep a close friendship when there are spouses involved?
Guys- vice versa.. ?